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Problems in your marriage? February 2, 2010

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There are many Christians today who are experiencing problems of one sort or another in their marriages. Some go down the route of divorce citing “irreconcilable differences”, and this can be witnessed even amongst pastors, whilst there are others who suffer in silence hoping that things will improve one day. Still there are others who live like “cats and dogs” in their homes and are constantly at each others throats. Couples who are experiencing such problems will often look at their neighbours or other couples in the church and wish that their marriage was like theirs. In an attempt to resolve their problems some may go to marriage counsellors; some speak to their pastors and other church elders; others sow a seed believing God for a miracle; whilst others even pray and fast. But no matter what method or formula they try they experience little or no improvement and they begin to doubt God or they blame the devil for attacking their marriage.

Now I do not want it to appear as if I am trivialising anyone’s experiences and whilst I am no expert on marriage I am fully aware of the fact that no individual is perfect and it can be challenging for two imperfect individuals to live together as man and wife. But one of the things I want to focus on is that whilst many people are looking this way and that for solutions to their marital problems, often they fail to look in the very place where the answers lie and that is in the scriptures. It was God who ordained marriage from the beginning of creation and He has already established in His word how married couples should live. But what is often the case is that Christians want the “perfect” marriage but are not prepared to observe the teachings of scriptures on the matter.

The first thing we learn from scripture is that woman was given to man (Adam) by God as a “help meet” or helper (Gen 2:18). Secondly we learn that “woman” was so-called because she came out of man (Gen 2:23). Thirdly we learn that because it isn’t good for man to be alone and that he needed a helper, God ordained that the man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the twain shall be one flesh (Gen 2:24). This is the basis of marriage as God ordained it. Jesus, in Matt 19:6, went further to say that ‘what God has joined together let no man put asunder.’ Since it is God who ordained marriage therefore God should be at the head of every marriage, especially the Christian marriage. The scriptural basis for this can be found in 1 Cor 11:3:

3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Since Christ is the head of man, the Christian man needs to submit himself to Christ’s leadership in his marriage. And since God ordained man to be the head of woman, the woman should submit herself to her husband because this is divinely ordained. In looking back at Gen 2:18 as aforementioned, we note that woman was made out of man to be a helper to him. A helper therefore is someone who assists the leader but not lead themselves. But too often we have some women who seek to usurp the man’s authority in the home (or even in church) and this can be one source of the marital problems. Some women can be naturally bossy especially if they have management responsibilities at work and in the board room and they can become haughty or prideful towards their husbands as a result. However, they need to learn how to conduct themselves towards their husbands when they get home. It should only be one person wearing the trousers in the home and that is the man. The scripture, Eph 5:22-24, commands a woman to be submissive to her own husband:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

 

For a wife to be submissive however the husband needs to take responsibility and lead. Often times a woman can lose respect for her husband if he appears weak and unassertive. Some men however can take assertiveness too far thinking that they have the right to shout at their wives, beat on them or make unreasonable demands. This is clearly wrong in sight of scriptures. One of the first responsibilities that a man has towards his wife is to LOVE her, as scripture commands:

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Eph 5:25)

This scripture is not to be taken lightly as it implies huge responsibilities. Imagine that Christ gave himself for the church by dying on the cross for it? This is the type of love that a husband need to have for his wife. Too often though during courting a man may say to his fiancée that, “I love you to death” but in reality he doesn’t really mean it. If this were true why it is that such a man would want to leave his wife as soon as problems arise in their subsequent marriage? Yet a man is required by God to love his wife even to the point that he should be ready to give his life in order to save hers. To extend the point further, scripture also commands in Eph 5:28-29 that a man should love his wife even as his own body:

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church

 

We have already seen in Gen 2:24 that when a man and a woman are joined together in marriage they become one flesh. This is the reason therefore that a man should treat his wife as part of his own body as he has the responsibility of nourishing and cherishing her. Again this is one area of neglect on the part of some husbands which causes problems in Christian marriages. Too often a man expects a woman to take care of his kids, prepare dinner and look after the home but neglects his wife’s needs. His excuse might be that he works too hard and he is too tired but a man should make time for his wife. Although nourishing and cherishing may include providing shelter and food it encapsulates a lot of things including romance and meeting a wife’s emotional needs. If priority isn’t given to these areas, undoubtedly this may cause resentment on the wife’s part and cause her to be less submissive and trigger off a breakdown in the marriage. What is often the case is that one problem leads to another because when the woman gets resentful and do not want to be “affectionate” towards her husband then the man also get resentful and bitter. Scripture however commands the man to love and not to be bitter against his wife:

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them” (Col 3:19)

In the context of marriage however, how does one define love? To answer this we need to look at 1 Cor 13 (using the NIV version):

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  8 Love never fails.

If there is love in a marriage why is there envying and strife? Why, does a husband or a wife keep record of wrongs which they use against each other in future squabbles? Why is the husband or the wife so easily angered instead of being quick to forgive? Why is it that the husband or the wife finds it so hard to say I am sorry when they have wronged each other? Too often when married couples have their differences they go off to bed, even to separate beds, without seeking to resolve those differences. Yet the scriptures say:

In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,” (Eph 4:26)

Talking about sleeping in separate beds, one of the areas that also often cause problems in a marriage is SEX. I know it is taboo and we don’t talk about such things but it is an area of marital life that is of vital importance and needs to be talked about. Often times when there are certain problems in a marriage sex is used as a weapon to spite the man (or the women in some cases). But what do the scriptures say regarding sex? Paul had this to say regarding sex in marriage in 1 Cor 7:

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

Although Paul does not speak by commandment here he knows only too well the problems that can arise if married couples neglect their conjugal responsibilities to each other. Paul points out that such neglect can lead to Satan tempting either or both partners to sin against the marriage, especially in the form of fornication. It goes without saying therefore that men, in particular, need sex but often times because most women do not have a high libido they “hold out” on their husbands. This can lead to feelings of rejection and sexual repression in men. It is important therefore for wives to be more accommodating towards their husbands in this area as Paul encourages. Sex is not everything but it is vitally important in a marriage because it is through the act of sex that the two become one flesh. Of course if there are physical problems that affect married couples coming together then they should seek medical assistance or advice without neglecting to pray also.

It is also important in a marriage to have communication at every stage. Couples need to talk to each other and express their feelings and desires. Marriage to a large extent is about compromise and for this to be effective there must be communication. Bickering and shouting at each other or giving each other the cold shoulder or playing the blame game does not facilitate communication. Communication should therefore occur in a calm and safe environment where both parties may have their voices heard. If there is love as defined by 1 Cor 13 (above) then this will facilitate good communication. If these biblical principles are adhered to I believe that all marital problems can be resolved to achieve a fruitful and lasting marriage.

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1. Alan Higgins - February 2, 2010

Excellent article

2. Yomi - July 3, 2010

Henry,

Good to hear from you again! And thanks for the link. Indeed, Church folks have neglected certain aspects of marriage, but it is in our best interest to look at everything.

While my old blog is no longer active, I am still publishing Gospel articles on our church site at http://www.PressingForTheCrown.org. Of course, everyone is welcome.

3. Henry - July 4, 2010

Yomi,
Thanks for stopping by. I am aware of your church site. There was already a link to it in my side bar under “resources”. Keep up the great work.

4. harleyq2 - July 8, 2010

I like the article and definately agree with everything. I think the issue that I have seen to be taken too far in churches is the woman=submission and the man is the head of house section. I once heard a speaker say that she knew her husband was wrong in a choice he made but she chose not to correct him and sited the “man is head” line. I have also heard christian men use that verse to justify being terrible partners.
Even though, I fully understand the context in which the passage means in a marriages. I just find that Christians take it so far out of context which aggrevates me whenever someone uses that verse.

5. Henry - July 8, 2010

Harleyq2,
I take your point that often times this idea of submission is taken out of context and this is perhaps out of ignorance. I certainly don’t think that submission should mean that a wife shouldn’t have a say when important decisions need to be made. In fact I certainly think that the wife’s imput as an helpmeet is essential as her role is indeed to be an helper to her husband.

Again this idea of submission should never be used to justify being a terrible partner because that goes against the scripture which says that a man has the responsibility of loving his wife like his own body – and to nourish and cherish her. But I guess people will always take scriptures out of context to suit their own ends.

6. Mrs Lucille branch - November 7, 2010

OH Henry !!!!! This Is Lucille. I hope you can remember me from another similar post, but I never got the chance to say what I thought and I was satisfied with the conclusion. I just thought you may have changed your heart about the old world view.
Even though you may feel you have arrived to a correct spiritual perspective, is it possible that from the possitive perspective you are asserting with such MANLY conviction can be tamed by a simple reminder of this beautiful covenant given to Men and women by the creator of the universe.The institution of marriage as you put it is a covenat as the one GOD has made with Humanity because he so LOVED the world. KEY Godly LOVE is different from world LOVE Please if you are feeling offended or intimidated by the words I have chosen, it is just to make a point of how careful we all must be to (submit -1 cor 13;4 ) HMMMM 🙂 Greek verb: consider another or; (proper) ones own self, English- Webster #3 consideration or to present for aproval . These defenitions are more spiritually LIKE MINDED with the True nature of GOD dont you think? So taking another look and washing of your mind from the WORLDLY view and heart in reguards to women, she was not made in the image of ADAM to serve man or of the anamils or the plants and flying cretures or bugs that ADAM had been givin DOMINON over. She was created in the Image of GOD as well as ADAM so to think that women should be subject to men in their ingnorance, meaning void of spiritual disernmant, is not reasonable in the matter of Marriage. Most of the scriptures you considered repeats the words In Christ and AS Christ you see? Man from the beggining was unable to lead Woman, as ADAM was with Eve when she was convinced of the lie and he followed her right into error: Gen 3: 6. The examples that you give just show how we are to LOVE one another as Christ loves us and follow HIS LEAD to Peace , and be LIKE MINDED with Jesus . Not the SUBMIT, like it says in 1peter 2:13 It has a totally different meaning. It means to rank under to OBEY the authourity above you. GOD in His plan for your life more abundantly he sent the truth of his WORD. Women was a gift to man to cherish and honor and respect as he does to his own body or his own self like wise women was givin the men join in one flesh and one mind one spirit as the family of GOD by his covering spiritually as well as physical . Reflecting the one mind in CHRIST We must pray and be dillagent in Seeking and Knocking . Carnal responces begin to change once in Christ and the renewal of the mind takes place according to each individual and his experiences from level to level or day to day. So I pray each day for more understanding and insight to beable to grow near to HIM. GOD, He is LOVE 1 john 4 :16.

7. Henry - November 8, 2010

Hello Lucille,
Thanks for visiting my blog. I welcome challenges to my viewpoint and where I am in error I will hold up my hand. I think I have presented a scriptural viewpoint in this post as opposed to a “world view”. The scripture commands women to submit their own husbands as submitting to Christ. There is nothing worldly about that. Women however often times want to usurp man’s authority as head of them. By trying to “spiritualise” everything however we lose sight of the very essence of what the scripture was teaching. What you said below for example and with all due respect is really your flesh talking:

She was created in the Image of GOD as well as ADAM so to think that women should be subject to men in their ingnorance, meaning void of spiritual disernmant, is not reasonable in the matter of Marriage.

Whether the man is ignorant or not is neither here nor there and if the Bible so commands who are we to question and rationalise it testing whether or not it is “reasonable”. Of course you should not allow a man to lead you into sin but otherwise you must submit to your husband and recognise his authority as head over you – not my words and not a world view but what the scriptures teach. I notice you do not argue about the other side of the coin where a man is commanded to love his wife as his own body. Most women want to here this but talk about submitting? No way! Of course if two people cannot live togther they may live apart (see 1 Cor 7) but they should not commit adultery by remarrying.

8. Mrs Lucille branch - November 8, 2010

Hola! Henry ,
I surely do understand and appreciate your Knowledge of scripture and fully take responsibility for my fleshly choice of words but I had made this choice to prove the point respectfully of the MANS perspective Vrs WOMEN perspective this is a matter of spirit not flesh . At the time these scriptures were written, its Holy SPIRIT inspired purpose was to reveal the TRUTH about the things from above GODS TRUTH and the writers being men used the examples of the sinful nature of their time of existance WHOREDOM and PROSTITUTION and Adultury to mension a few;These were going on in the CHURCH by the women and men so im thinking of course as a man it would seem automaticly, first that the matter is a physical command, but all of those behaviors are a spiritual reflections of the type of rejection of (faith in Christ alone for salvation not of works) that is Flurishing in the in the Church today. Jesus Is comming for HIS BRIDE the Church! So if I am in the TRUTH one mind and spirit with HIM we are sybolicly spiritualy one and must submit to HIM who gives me peace and the freedom from Bondages to love GOD first and neighbors as my self (HUSBAND) Do you Not Know the Picture of Marriage is the picture of Christ and his Bride? Also the family Father, Son, Holy spirit are one perfect family ? Symbolicly EVE was made from the Rib of Adam so then they are one with each other as a symbol reflecting JESUS and the father being One, same DNA but different person at least thats how I believe it to be by Scripture gen 2: 22.
(1 cor 6 whole chap )
Now (1 cor 7) is a reponse to a letter written for them in search of clarity of the spiritual things yet they behaved carnal by folowing false teachers in the Midst of them in regard to the LAW. which by then they should have been able to remember the teaching taught them in the begining of that Church. Prayerfully this can help you understand my view of this matter and most apreciate your time to help us find the Truth God Bless

9. Bible Study - November 9, 2010

I believe Jesus is enough, my husband loves me as I love myself, and I the woman (yet a man in flesh) submit to Jesus. I love shadows and types, but a man who is a heretic after the law, after the first and second admonition the bible tells us to reject them. We must be careful of those women who will not submit to their husband (Christ), especially when they teach others to do something they will not do, this is blasphemy. If we preach that one should not steal, yet we steal, we blaspheme God according to Romans. If we preach for a woman to submit to her husband, we better be submitted to our husband as well. We all (women), the whole world, must submit to the husband (christ), or yes they are in sin. However, let us beware of the malice and wickedness of the world whereby they lie in wait to deceive and refuse to obey the word of God by refusing to submit to their husband. What do you guys think though about the scripture that tells us we are justified by faith without the deeds of the law?

10. Bible Study - November 9, 2010

Lucille, I have always looked at Adam and Eve representing Christ as well. I also agree that marriage represents our union with Christ, for two become one flesh. We in the flesh while Christ dwells in the same flesh with us, Christ in us the hope of glory. Keep preaching truth girl. Oh, I better watch, many think girls shouldn’t preach. One thing is for sure, we are not to suffer a woman (the bride) to teach or usurp authority over the “man”. There is one mediator between God and man, the “man” Christ Jesus, according to scripture.

11. Bible Study - November 9, 2010

Henry and Lucille, do you believe Lucille could pastor a church and teach and preach and take this position of power in the church? I do, as long as she didn’t usurp authority over the man.

12. Henry - November 9, 2010

Bible Study,
That question is perhaps for a different post but to answer your question briefly, I do not see anywhere in scripture where support is given for a woman to pastor a church. This does not mean however that women do not have responsibities in the church towards the Gospel. But I know that you are going to throw scriptures at me such as “there is neither male nor female” in Christ etc so I do not want to enter into a debate with you on this subject.

Scripture teaches that a wife should be subject to her husband in the same way that the church is subject to Christ. The church which is the Bride does not usurp Christ’s authority but rather is subject to Him.

1 Tim 2
11Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13For Adam was first formed, then Eve.

I don’t think it was a coincidence that the Chief Pastor (Jesus Christ) did not select a single woman among His 12 disciples. Likewise I do not see any evidence of female pastors in the New Testament although there have been Deaconesses.

13. Mrs Lucille branch - November 10, 2010

Hello again Henry
Greetings Bible study menber,

This very Very VERY Blessed that we can share with one another and study the WORD this way. I am so Grateful to GOD for this open window of opportunity to share my faith with another. Freely he gave so freely I give what is so dear and valuable to me.
My Joy comes from the LORD Of my Salvation and in HIM alone do I give Honor and Glory for the New LIFE HE has given me, in that the renewing of my mind. (Rom 12: 1-2 ). I no longer wish to think of the things that had me bound to the natural physical way of thinking I prefer to purpose my life going up stream againt the currant of words which Lie and misslead and cheat and rob the TRUTH from the people who claim to believe yet stay yoked to the Law and letter of the law. We as children of GOD put on the Mind Of Christ which is HOLY like the WORD It is spirit that was Written on natural paper so we can naturally see and hear it by the natural system we live in . BUT all this is possible so we can become one with the Creator of the Heavens and the Earth who is SPIRIT. Us Born again in the spirit. All my thoughts and all my Dreams and all my goals and all my feelings for life are spirit before i write them or say them and do them, making them plain for the eyes can see and understand, So We live by Faith not by sight cause what we have here is temperal in the natural and God wants us to have Life in HIM in the NEW LIFE spirit, HOLY SPIRIT so we can be with HIM forever after all you see is gone in the natural. Please Know that my words though plain are filled with LOVE and apreciation towards all who would listen cause faith comes by the hearing of the WORD of GOD and New Life by the belief in Christ Jesus our Savior and that Alone. All which was what I thought is gone and now life for me is filled with such joy that the value of living for me is to Worship God in spirit and in truth and Love the people as my self . So as I Grow in the LORD in the Spirit( Become one with the Husband JESUS I submit )so then it will flow out of the new me (the bride, church, woman) in the natural and bless all those around me. Gal. 5 So Henry please rethink and recieve peace in understanding who I am in CHRIST the Bride just like you, able ministers of the LORD.
But ye [are] a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:
1Pet 2:9 Amen!

14. Henry - November 10, 2010

Lucille,
I have heard all you have said. But all I can do is present what scripture said. I do not judge or condemn any female pastors. But Paul stated clearly in 1 Tim 2 that he suffers not a woman to teach a man or exert authority over him. Paul is one of the “greatest” exponents of the gospel and he wrote more than half the new testament (as history goes). So do we ignore is clear instruction? Do we rationalise it away and say that Paul was speaking to only a certain people in a particular space and time? Notice I do not present my own feelings or biases by what scripture teaches. Do we therefore accept some and ignore some or spiritualise it away? Admittedly some of the teachings of scripture are by interpretation and some of it are a clear instruction to the church – these instructions have nothing to do with the Old Covenant Law in terms of seeking to yoke ourselves under the Law again. To give an example, scripture says we must be baptised by water – so we obey it because it is a clear thing that we must do. We don’t put a spiritual spin on it and say that we aren’t suppose to do it physically but perceive it in the spirit. These are the distinctions we need to make.

15. Bible Study - November 11, 2010

I was baptized with water. The water of life that springs up inside us, a well of water springing up into life everlasting. I speak here as a man, If Lucille wanted to preach or teach in a gathering of believers, or in a church organization, I see nothing wrong with that as long as she abides in sound doctrine not taking authority over Christ. Now spiritually speaking, I was baptized with the water of life, the spirit of God. This is the only baptism required for salvation, if anyone doubts let them ask the theif on the cross that entered paradise, but never came down from the cross to be baptized with physical water.

16. Bible Study - November 11, 2010

Also, Henry,

Would you say there are any women Christians? Are they not disciples of Christ? If they are disciples of Christ, then Christ has female disciples. Acts 9:36 tells us there was a woman disciple named Dorcas. Also, the new testament mentions a man who had virgin daughters who did prophesy. And yes, in Christ there is neither male nor female, with that I totally agree.

17. Henry - November 11, 2010

Bible Study,
Please read my coments in context. I am not hear to debate whether or not water baptism is essential for salvation but did Jesus Christ command us to do it? Yes he did! So if you claim it is not essential you are contradicting the very Lord whom you claim to serve. I would never teach anyone that water baptism isn’t important in being saved. When Nicodemus asked Jesus what he needed to do to be saved Jesus said that he must be born again – born of water and of the Spirit. Even Jesus himself went to be baptised in water at the hands of John the Baptist.

It is very interesting how the church insist that people should observe teachings that Jesus didn’t teach yet other things that He commanded are ignored.

I have already stated that women too have certain responsibilities pertaining to the gospel – but they are not supposed to usurp a man’s authority or teach men. The questions you ask are somewhat irrelevant because I could equally ask (as Paul did in 1 Cor 12) are all apostles, are all prophets, are all healers? No yet all are to be disciples of Christs. Therefore all desciples of Christs do not manifest all gifts so not all are teachers and preachers etc.

18. Mrs Lucille branch - November 16, 2010

Wow ! Thanks Henry for such Intense ferver for the things of GOD 🙂 We all should agree that GOD has blessed us with the Truth and The Revelation of that Truth in Christ Jesus alone. (Eph 1 whole chap) Never the less Phillp 3:15 All of us who are mature should take such a view of things, and if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you.
PlEASE Know that I have read your words with my Husband and to him as well as I it seems your Paulinian perspective speaks louder than your renewed mind in CHRIST. Saint Paul was as you and I , IN CHRIST; I pray and we should submitt (consider) one to another in the Love of CHRIST.
Are you Married or divorced ? Acording to Paul he has written a series of letters to help the flock understand the SPIRTUAL things as well as Natural, in his HOLY SPIRIT INSPIRED WRITTINGS ! He also makes it clear in 1 corintians 7 how he is writting of HIS own views as he saw it for the present crisis in the church back then, also the (HOLY family FATHER SON AND HOLY SPIRIT ) Malachi 2 as a GUIDE to the Natural family HUSBAND WIFE also the New HOLY FAMILY( JESUS HUSBAND and LORD – CHURCH WIFE BRIDE) . So Once again I ask If you can Consider the Positive of this relationship as in the Love of GOD it is in perfect Harmony If we ARE IN CHRIST . I would not usurp authority on MAN (HUMANITY ) By the yoke of the LAW or the LETTER of THE LAW; I mean teach or preach carnal views over and above as apposed to CHRIST Crucified 1 cor 1 :23 God Forbid .
So Let us rejoice together in the Kingdom Here on earth as it is in Heaven in righteousness,peace and Joy In the Holy SPIRIT Rom 14 :17 GOD BLESS !

19. Henry - November 17, 2010

Hello Lucille,
I do not claim to have any more truth than the next man. But the reality is that we all should come into the unity of the faith as Christ commands. If we all had the truth there would not have been so many denominations to start with, each with their own points of doctrinal differences.

I personally do not subscribe to a particular view of scripture so I find it interesting that you should lable me as taking a “Pauline” stance. Some of what Paul spoke, he spoke by permission and not of commandment for our profit. At the same time some of what he wrote were the commandments of the Lord. Where Paul speaks by permission he makes that clear and distinct from the commandments of Jesus. On the speaking in tongues is a classic example where Paul spoke by commandment (1 Cor 14) and these are largely ignored in most churches today because people think they are “spiritual”.

In answer to your question I am married (not divorced). I am fully aware that the relationship of a husband to a wife is synonymous of Christ and the church. This is what Paul spoke about in Ephesians. The church therefore is a bride being prepared without blemish which will be reconciled to Christ in that marriage supper of the Lamb. So therefore the Church being the bride is subject to the authority of Christ and even so should a woman be subject to her own husband. Indeed if we are in Christ then we should be in harmony with the instructions of scripture. But if we are true to ourselves we can admit that we sometimes fall short in obeying Christ commands. I can lift my hand up and say that I am far from perfect and therefore have sinned. May the Lord forgive my sins when I fall short of His glory!

20. disciplestudy - November 18, 2010

The bible tells us that he who is born of god does not commit sin. Do you say you are born of God and still sin? That is unscriptural. How can we who are dead to sin live any longer therein? The bible tells us that he that sinneth is of the devil.

21. Henry - November 19, 2010

Disciplestudy,
Are you saying that you are a perfect Christian and that since you became a Christian you have not committed any sin? If that is the case you need to be very careful in being too self-righteous. Have you not read in scripture that there is no one that doeth good and sinneth not? My desire is not to sin but occassionally I may stumble – sometimes I do somethings I shouldn’t and sometimes I omit to do the things I should.

Would you say that Peter sinned in Gal 2:11-14 why Paul rebuked him publicly? Wasn’t Peter born of God? Did he not receive the Holy Spirit on the day of Pentecost in Acts 2?

1 Joh 1
8If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.

22. Bible Study Online - December 3, 2010

I do not commit sin. The bible tells me that where no law is there is not transgression (no sin), for sin is transgression of the law. Therefore, Christ having abolished in his flesh the emnity of carnal ordinances, the law is no longer there for me to transgress, for I walk after the spirit and not after the flesh. We cannot ignore that the bible tells us that he who is born of God doth not commit sin, and he that sinneth is of the devil, not to mention the many scriptures instructing us to “cease” (which means to stop completely) from sin, as well as speaking of those who cannot “cease” from sin being double minded and unstable, following the way of Balaam, going astray. Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound, God forbid for us who are dead to sin can no longer live therein the old man is crucified put to death that the body of sin is destroyed, with his affections and lusts. A good tree cannot , I repeat cannot it is not possible, bring forth corrupt fruit (sin). If we bring forth sin as fruit (we are a corrupt tree) unsaved. I know “the bible tells us if we say we have no sin we deceive ourselves”. This is mosts argument to continue in sin, but it does not stop there, it goes on to say when we confess our sin, we are then cleansed from “all sin”, “all unrighteousness which is sin”. This verse is speaking to the lost to realize without Christ they remain in sin, but when they confess their sin, JEsus cleanses us from all sin, for as he told the adultress woman, go and sin no more, was he instructing her to do the impossible. No, this was a commandment, “no more sin”. With man this is impossible, but with God (in our life) all things are possible, only believe. We have power to become the sons of God, power to cease from sin. There are many deceivers in the world that what, teach we are not to continue in sin, no they teach that one can continue in sin and be saved. All who believe a lie will be damned that has not pleasure in righteousness. Please don’t hang on to falsehood and ignore a large part of the bible that commands us to be perfect. Yes we have all fallen short of his glory, but when we come to Christ, we are his glory in him. We should not fall short in Christ, Put another way, we will not fall short in Christ. Let us make our calling and election sure, we do that by walking in love which brings forth no sin, for God is love, if we abide in God we sin not. If we abide not in him (if we sin), we are cast forth as a branch into the fire. (John 15, and 1 John) If you abide in him, you will sin not, cease from sin according to 1 John. There are so many more scriptures but I am running out of room, for now I must stop here. However, we cannot sin if we are in Christ.

23. Bible Study Online - December 3, 2010

Saying that we sin in Christ is saying that there is sin in Christ. If we are in Christ as we claim, we cannot sin, for in him there is no sin. Are we in Christ or not? Do we sin or not, it is that simple. We are not to be moved away from the simplicity of Christ. Christ is fulfilling of the righteousness of the law. Are we in Christ? Well are we fulfilling the righteousness of the law in faith that works. A hearer of the law is not justified according to scripture, but a doer of the law. Are we doing the whole law, if not we are not in Christ. Let us make our calling and election sure walking in Charity (love) that works no ill will against God or his brother.

24. William Cody Bateman - May 15, 2011

Excellent article. I would like to know if you will review an article on “Facebook and Marriage” that I just published. It falls in line with this particular discussion thread.

I am not sure why these issues concerning submission become so divisive. Perhaps it is because the church has been “dumbed down” by the emasculation of men in general and husbands in particular.

Give me your thought on this subject as it relates to Facebook and Marriage, will you?

Keep on writing!

Cody Bateman
Proverbs 22:1

25. Henry - May 17, 2011

William Cody Bateman,
Welcome and thanks for visiting my blog and for your comment. I have reviewed your article and I think you do make a valid point that social media such as facebook can indeed facilitate inappropriate relationships that may lead to adultery. Very good article.

Henry


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